I jumped up and down when this book arrived. My husband took one look at the cover, arched an eyebrow, and asked, “Should I be worried?”
No, he shouldn’t be. I’m planning to give my marriage a lifetime. But a new Holly Wainwright book? Yes, please. So, let’s dive in, shall we?
I Give my Marriage a Year / Holly Wainwright
(Pan Macmillan Australia, 2020)
Lou and Josh have been together for 14 years. They share two kids, a mortgage, careers and plenty of history. Now, after a particularly fraught Christmas, Lou is ready to ask herself: is this marriage worth hanging on to?
Every month, Lou sets a different test for the relationship – from daily sex to brutal honesty – to help her decide, by the end of the year, if she should stay or go. Secrets are exposed, old wounds reopened and a true-to-life suburban love story unfolds.
I’m going to give I Give my Marriage a Year the ultimate compliment: I finished it.
That probably doesn’t sound like much. But in 2020, the year of Covid-19, lockdowns, heightened anxiety and waning concentration, it really is praise of the highest order. It’s one of only three books I’ve finished since the first lockdown.
This is particularly notable given I didn’t really like any of the main characters. I didn’t like the main characters in Wainwright’s books The Mummy Bloggers and How to be Perfect either, and enjoyed those reads too. I’d chalked that up to having been a mummy blogger myself and recognising the environment and shenanigans. A third non-stop read suggests the key is actually Wainwright’s talent to invoke empathy for all, not just for the likeable.
(Perhaps she could turn that talent to the Covid-deniers and anti-maskers of the world?)
I laughed. I groaned. I squirmed. I shook my head. I thought, “How could you?” and shouted, “EWWWW NO!” I crossed my fingers. I might not have liked these characters, but I cared. I’m also not sure I liked the final resolution but I’m comfortable with it and, most importantly, I’m glad there was one. No cliffhangers here.
I don’t do big spoilers, but here’s a little one: I also enjoyed Josh’s mental load epiphany. It’s a delight to read an otherwise decent character – one who does more for his family than his friends do for their families – come to the realisation that he’s still nowhere near carrying his weight without getting defensive about it.
Standout lines:
- How long since she’d felt lucky, the way she once had, before a million dramas big and small had white-anted the solid base of the life she and Josh had built together?
- ‘I would support you if you decided to cut Josh’s head off,’ Gretchen said, pouring hot water into two cups. ‘But it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t tell you it was murder.’
- How much of this had Lou just got on with, while he’d been patting himself on the back for being an ‘involved’ dad?
- It feels like a holiday from my life was true, but it didn’t look like the brochure.
You can purchase I Give my Marriage a Year from Booktopia here. I’ve also seen it available online at Kmart and Big W.
Have you read I Give my Marriage a Year? What did you think?
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I needed a new read to add to my Kindle and a new Holly Wainwright is going to be just perfect. Thanks for the review.
SSG xxx
Enjoy the read!
I haven’t read it, but the second quote makes it sound like it’s worth reading 🙂
Gretchen is easily my favourite character in the book.
Sounds like a light read when it’s hard to focus due to Covid! Sometimes you just need those kind of books. Hope you’re doing okay x
Thank you! It was the springboard I needed to dive back into reading. Am now switching up the genres to keep with it. x
Thanks for your review of this book. I’ve also read Holly’s previous ones and felt a bit like you about them . As a blogger it seems to be a bit close to home at times! I understand the lack of concentration with reading during these times but haven’t suffered from it myself, thankfully. I get the fact that you finished it says a lot. #lifethisweek
It really does say a lot! You know 2020’s been bad when that’s the highest compliment I can give a book!
I’ve been looking at this book but not been convinced I would like it. Thanks for your review, I’m swaying more towards purchasing it now.
You’re welcome! I hope you enjoy it.
I didn’t read her previous two books but have heard quite a bit that’s good about this one. Thanks for the review.
You’re welcome! Please share your thoughts if you do read it.
I read Mummy Bloggers and would be keen to give this a go based on your recommendation. I know what you mean about 2020, this is the first time in forever, that I haven’t been able to finish a book. I have three on my unfinished pile so far and the ones I have finished have been few and far between!
It’s such a weird feeling, isn’t it? Books are usually my perfect escape, but it’s as if my brain knows there’s no escape this year. What did you think of Mummy Bloggers?
So many books I cannot finish. I start a bit and then my attention is called back to social media. it’s a beast! I read the Mummy Bloggers and thought it a bit exaggerated but hey, people sure saw people they identified with from the blogging world.
Glad you finished it AND linked up. Always glad about that!
Thank you for linking up this week for #lifethisweek. Next week’s optional prompt is 36/51 Taking Stock #4 7.9.2020 and I hope to see you there too. Take care, stay safe and well. Denyse.
It was totally exaggerated! I think that’s what I liked about the Mummy Bloggers. The insight that, no matter how crazy the actual blogging world got at times, it could always be worse!
Thanks for hosting the link-up. x
Just finished reading this (lol, in full :). Have to say I had high hopes on first hearing about IGMMAY, thinking it was a sure candidate for a film adaptation. I’m not so sure now. Like Lou & Josh’s marriage I thought the story lost a fit of its fizz after a while, and was maybe overly long. And plenty of unlikeable characters as you say, but don’t we love to hate the unlikeable characters? 😀